There is a disease among us. Be alert to its symptoms. Often it begins when a wife feels strongly about an issue, and in the process fails to reverence her husband. In fighting what she considers to be wrong she thus sins by her failure to obey God's command to reverence. This is just the opening the enemy was plotting for. I think I hear him laugh.
The situation deteriorates rapidly, and we soon have a wife who sees herself as fighting for right and sees her husband as wicked. There are few men who can live above the view their wife holds of them. God knew this when He put it in the Word that we are to reverence our husbands. All the while the wife sees her husband as wicked and she needn't say a word. He can feel it.
From here the situation only gets worse as the man, acting out what the wife thinks of him, becomes more and more desperate to be viewed in a positive way by his wife, yet becomes increasingly ungodly. His self image plummets with the view the wife holds of him.
How can we find healing? The only remedy is obedience to God's Word. Often the wife has a powerful key to the situation. She can begin to reverence a husband soldier who has been left bleeding in enemy territory. This is not the time to critique his fight. This is the time to nurse him to health with the the Lord's teaching on reverence.
We must realize that our men fight a real enemy who seeks to destroy our homes. The man, as the head of the family, is his prime target. If the enemy can hit the man in the heart, through his wife's lack of reverence, he rejoices in evil victory in at least a battle, if not the whole war.
Sisters, for the sake of our homes, our families, our marriages, and the Lord's kingdom, we must learn true reverence. Study it. Meditate on it. Your home depends on it.
"Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife [see] that she reverence [her] husband." Ephesians 5:33
Note: It is nearly impossible to reverence someone while looking down on him.